Srila Prabhupada – “The impersonalist philosophy is oneness so how there be love with just one? Is it possible? Have you got any such experience that love means one? No. Love means two. There must be two, the lover and the beloved. Kṛṣṇa is already lover. He loves you so much that He's trying to get you back. That is Kṛṣṇa's attempt. "Please, My dear boy, or My dear friend, My dear servant.” (Lecture SB, Canto 2 Ch 1 text 3, Paris, June 12, 1974)

Srila Prabhupada – “Love means you take and you give also. Suppose if you love somebody and you simply take from him, but you don't give. Oh, do you think it is very good? No. It is not good. That is not love. That is exploitation. If I go on simply taking from you, and if I don't offer you anything, that is simply exploitation.” (Lecture BG, Ch 9 text 2-5, New York City, Nov 23, 1966)

The relationship with Krsna in the spiritual world (The Kingdom of God) is NEVER a “one-way” forced unproductive loveless affinity.

The individual jiva-soul's  relationship with Krsna is always based on free will, voluntary cooperation and cooperative contributions. This "two-way exchange" allows an unlimited variety of unique creative personal offerings of service to Krsna that deepens, expands and adds mystery to one's relationship with Krsna.

Only then can genuine loving exchanges truly exist when it is based on a two-way exchange of feelings.

Śrīla Prabhupāda – “Love means "two-persons," I must deal with you open-hearted, you must deal with me open-hearted, then there is love. So if you want to love Kṛṣṇa, then these things must be there.” (Aug 9, 1976, Tehran)

The individual jiva-souls, as their full potential of bodily spiritual form on the Vaikuntha planets and Goloka Vrindavana, are forever positively re-inventing themselves by always choosing how to forever increase their variety of voluntary contributions (service) to Krsna.

This is achieved by forever positively discovering a variety of loving ways to expand their individual expression of personal offerings to Krsna in their perpetual unique intimate relationship with Him.

Such a relationship is never impersonal, one-sided or one-way because Krsna always reciprocates with such genuine loving affection with His devotees in “two-way” loving exchange.

Srila Prabhupada – “Love is reciprocal, voluntary, good exchange of feeling. Then there is love. Not by force, no, Krsna does not want to become a lover like that, ‘You love me, otherwise I shall kill you!” (Washington DC July 8, 1976)

Real love (service) is voluntary and can never exist on a “one-way" impersonal path because love can only exists when "two" are involved in voluntary reciprocal contributing loving exchanges.  

Surrender to Krsna does not mean eliminating your individual identity, personality, sense of self and denying self-expression through free will, such a mindless "one-sided" existence only allows a none-contributing stagnant loveless impersonal version of so called surrender to Krsna (God)

This kind of mindless (emotionless) so called surrender only extinguishes the individual jiva-soul's independent spirit of self expression, individuality, free-will and their ability to voluntary contribute and provide individual offerings to Radha and Krsna.

From personal voluntarily self chosen contributions offered by the individual jiva-souls that are different from Krsna's shower of loving affection, makes the relationship with Krsna a two-way mystery of exchanges that only further enriches, intensifies and expands loving exchanges and affection between the jiva-souls and Krsna.

Such personal unique contributions from the jiva-soul's independent expressions coming from their free will, forever expands their personal ability to make voluntary offerings that forever increase their loving emotions for Krsna in a healthy "two-way" exchange of loving reciprocation.

Genuine loving exchanges or service is always a "two-way" street, it is never a "one-way" or a one-sided affair because as said above, relationships expressed in a "one-sided" dominance without having mutal loving respectful exchanges between two, is not love at all, it is cold impersonalism.

Loving service can only really again exist when the conditioned jīva-souls in the material world in the rare human form of life are trained up by the Spiritual Master to eventually reach their full potential as Kṛṣṇa’s pure devotees, where they can again express the full potential of their constitutional right as a marginal living entity (jiva-soul) who reciprocates fully with Kṛṣṇa in a two-way relationship loving exchanges in the spiritual world.

Only then can love or service be genuinely expressed in its natural two-way relationship based on reciprocal exchanges between Kṛṣṇa and the individual jīva-souls.

Kṛṣṇa gave the individual jīva-souls their freedom (free will) for this purpose to establish a two-way voluntary relationship, just so they can express their personal unique loving feelings too, experienced differently from Krsna by each individual jīva-soul in their unique relationship with Krsna.

The fact is, real freedom, or experiencing the full potential of one's unique independent personality, is only fully experienced in Goloka Vṛndāvana and on the Vaikuṇṭha planets, where no jiva-soul is forced to do anything in both the Vaikuntha planets and Goloka-Vrindavana they do not choose to do because all service on the spiritual planets are voluntary and never forced or demanded.

The reason why the spiritual worlds are like this, is all loving relationship with Kṛṣṇa are never founded on Him forcing His demands of obedience or even viewpoints on the individual jiva-souls. The jiva-souls must voluntary choose for themselves only then can loving exchanges and mutual respect exist between Krsna and His devotees.

A relationship where a devotee is always told what to do, how to think and how to act, and to only just obey without personal voluntary contributions (offerings) and intelligent inquiry, only makes the jiva-souls no better than dead stone and is impersonalism.

Srila Prabhupada – “If you have no free will, then you are a stone. The stone has no free will. You want to be stone? Then you must have free will! But don't misuse your free will. But don't try to become stone either. That is not life.” (Aug 5, 1976, New Mayapur France)

The fact is, this kind of mindless impersonal emotionless none contributing forceful "surrender" to a so called God, Spiritual Master, teacher, husband/wife or leadership without being encouraged to voluntary contribute service in one’s own personal unique way, is dangerous impersonal bogus suicidal mentality.

The individual jiva-souls must be encouraged and nurtured to only participate in a "two-way" reciprocal relationship of respectful exchanges, where the devotee is always encouraged by the bonafide spiritual teacher to come to the platform of voluntary personal contributions. 

Mindless surrender in a “one-sided” loveless dictatorship is nonsense impersonalism and dangerous.

Such impersonal dominant relationships, where the individual jīva-soul’s personality and character are artificially restricted and suppressed by always being told what to do without personal input, and not being allowed to think for themselves, only extinguishes the jiva-soul's spiritual identity, individuality, self expression and personality.

Such Mayavadi (impersonal)  teachings of attempting to extinguish "free will" in the name of surrender is spiritual suicide!!

Under such impersonal conditions of being denied the spiritual right of self determination, the individual jiva-soul's natural constitution of self-expression, that allows them to choose for themselves what to contribute or offer to Kṛṣṇa, is replaced by a "one-way" emotionless forceful demands of being told what to do, what to offer and how to think.

No, the spiritual world's of the Vaikuntha planets and Goloka-Vrindavana are NOT loveless, mindless, devoid of voluntary individual contributions or impersonal in way like like that.

Srila Prabhupada – “We have got the propensity to love. Love means somebody else. Love cannot be one or love cannot be executed only one, personally. There must be another one. I love somebody; somebody loves me, there must be lover, there must be beloved, and the transaction, then love.” (Lecture SB, Canto 1 Ch 2 text 6, Delhi, Nov 12, 1973)

Srila Prabhupada  - “Also free will means that you can act wrongly if you choose. That is free will. Unless there is chance of doing wrong or right, there is no question of free will. Where is free will then? If I act only one sided, that means I have no free will. Because we act sometimes wrongly, that means free will.”

Hayagriva dasa – “A man may know better but still act wrongly.”

Srila Prabhupada – “Yes, but that is free will. He misuses his. Just like a thief, he knows that his stealing, it is bad, but still he does it. That is free will. He cannot check his greediness, so in spite of his knowing that he is doing wrong thing—he will be punished, he knows; he has seen another thief, he was punished, he was put into prison— everything he knows, but still he steals. Why? Misuse of free will. Unless there is misuse of free will, there is no question of free will.” (Excerpt: Discussions on Rene Descartes philosophy)

Srila Prabhupada – “So everyone can know that independence means one can use it properly, or one can misuse it. That is independence. If you make it one way only, that is not independence, that is force.” (Los Angeles, June 23, 1975)<>