A relationship between two can only experience love, and that is why Kṛṣṇa gave the jīva-souls their freedom (free will) in the first place, so they could express themselves in their own unique way.

Loving voluntary service to Krsna can only exist when the conditioned jīva-souls are trained up by the Spiritual Master.

Only then can the jiva-souls eventually reach their full potential as Kṛṣṇa’s pure devotee.

Only then can they reciprocate with Kṛṣṇa with voluntary loving exchanges and express their unique feelings of love.

In this way love or service can be genuinely expressed in a natural two-way respectful relationship based on reciprocal exchanges between Kṛṣṇa and the individual jīva-souls. 

A relationship between two can only experience loving exchanges, and that is why Kṛṣṇa gave the jīva-souls their freedom (free will) in the first place. 

The full potential of the individual jīva-souls (marginal living entities) is only fully expressed, experienced and realized in the spiritual worlds, by using their free will in full, and not while trapped in a material creation in a temporary material bodily vessel that is restricted to the demands of the material body - eating, sleeping, mating and defending.

Surrendering to Kṛṣṇa is enriched, expanded and further enhanced by the jīva-soul’s personal unique loving voluntary contributions of individual service. 

Such unique voluntary service increases, enriches and magnifies the relationship of loving exchanges and reciprocation eternally between Kṛṣṇa and the jīva-souls in a healthy two-way exchange of feelings and emotions. 

Kṛṣṇa gave the jīva-souls their freedom (free will) for this purpose to establish a two-way voluntary relationship, so they can express personal unique loving feelings and offerings experienced differently by each individual jīva-soul in their relationship with Krsna. 

The fact is, real freedom, or experiencing the full potential of one's (the jīva-souls) personality, is only fully experienced in Goloka Vṛndāvana and Vaikuṇṭha where no one is forced to do anything because everything is voluntary. 

In other words, our loving relationship with Kṛṣṇa in the spiritual world is never founded forceful relationships, where one is always told what to do, how to think and how to act, and just obey without personal voluntary contributions (offerings) and intelligent inquiry within the relationship. 

The fact is, mindless emotionless surrender to a so called God or Spiritual Master without being encouraged or nurtured to participate in a reciprocal relationship with personal contributions or offerings, is impersonalism that only exists in a one-sided dominant forceful association.

Under such impersonalism conditions the jīva-soul’s personality, character and individuality is artificially restricted, suppressed and almost extinguished.

Such a condition is called dangerous Mayavadi suicidal impersonalism.

This means the jiva-souls natural constitution of independent self-expression, of being able to choose their own personal contributions to offer to Kṛṣṇa, is replaced by a one-way emotionless dictatorship of being always told what to do, what to offer and how to think. 

No, the spiritual worlds are not loveless and impersonal like that. 

Śrīla Prabhupāda - "Love means two persons. . . I must deal with you open-hearted, you must deal with me open-hearted, then there is love . . . So if you want to love Kṛṣṇa, God, then these things must be there." – (Evening darśana, August 9, 1976, Tehran) 

Love or genuine selfless service is always based on a two-way exchange of feelings, this means each jīva-soul provides their own individual contributions of personal inputs to express their own independent individuality and free will. 

Śrīla Prabhupāda - "Kṛṣṇa does not want to become a lover like that, on the point of revolver. ‘You love me, otherwise I shall kill you!’ That is not love; that is threatening. Love is reciprocal, voluntary, good exchange of feeling. Then there is love. Not by force; that is rape. Why one is called lover, another is called rape?" – (July 8, 1976 in Washington, D.C.) 

Serving Kṛṣṇa is not impersonal in anyway, meaning it is never a one-sided domineering forceful relationship of always being told what to do and think. 

Surrender to Kṛṣṇa does not mean giving up your intelligence, free will, individuality and the awareness of being an independent unique person you are eternally, who can choose to voluntarily serve Kṛṣṇa with personal contributions, or even ignore Kṛṣṇa if they want. 

Such a choice must always be there in the spiritual world's of Vaikuntha planets and Goloka-Vrindavana for free will to truly exist because part of having free will means being able to reject Krsna too as Prabhupada explains above.

Goloka Vṛndāvana and Vaikuṇṭha are not totalitarian (oppressive) abodes for the individual jīva-souls in their relationship with Kṛṣṇa or Viṣṇu. 

No, the Kingdom of God is not impersonal like that, there are always voluntary loving exchanges of feelings, respecting others and service based on reciprocation and cooperation between Kṛṣṇa and His dear devotees. 

Without this free will and the ability to reciprocate, the jīva-soul or marginal living entity is no better than dead stone, that can never receive or give love. 

Śrīla Prabhupāda - "If you have no free will, then you are a stone. The stone has no free will. You want to be stone Then you must have free will! But don’t misuse your free will. But don’t try to become stone either. That is not life". (August 5, 1976, New Mayapur, France) 

The spiritual worlds of Vaikuṇṭha and Goloka Vṛndāvana are personal Kingdoms centred around Krsna and based on loving exchanges and cooperation between Kṛṣṇa and His devotees, it is never a one-way demanding forceful Kingdom. 

Ultimately all jiva-souls are Kṛṣṇa’s eternal servants and very dear friends, however, that does not mean they have to give up their free will or individuality under the heading of surrender that some foolish immature devotees believe. 

Śrīla Prabhupāda - "Love is reciprocal, voluntary, good exchange of feeling. Then  there is love. Not by force, no, Kṛṣṇa does not want to become a lover like that, ‘You love me, otherwise I shall kill you!" – (Washington, DC, July 8, 1976) 

Vipina Purandara - "Why doesn’t Kṛṣṇa protect me from thinking independently from Him?"

Srila Prabhupada - "That means you lose your independence. That is force, in Bengali it is said, ‘If you catch one girl or boy, ‘You love me, you love me, you love me.’ ” Is it love? “You love me, otherwise I will kill you!’ Is that love?" (July 8, 1976 in Washington, D.C.)

As already explained, free will in its full potential only fully exists in Vaikuṇṭha and Goloka Vṛndāvana and is greatly restricted in the material creation. 

Of course free will exists fully in Goloka Vṛndāvana and Vaikuṇṭha because it is part and parcel of the constitutional make up of the marginal living entities (jiva-souls). 

And Kṛṣṇa always allows free will in Goloka Vṛndāvana and Vaikuṇṭha because if He didn’t, then loving exchanges would never exist. 

How can reciprocation, loving exchanges and voluntary offerings to Krsna take place if the jiva-souls are denied the ability to choose?

If Kṛṣṇa denied the jīva-souls their free will, then they could never experience love, or know what love is, it would be just a one-sided dominated loveless cold impersonal dead affair.

Therefore, love is always a two-way exchange of feelings, it is never one-way or one-sided affair because as said above, relationships expressed in a one-sided dominance without having loving exchange between two, is not love at all it is impersonalism and slavery. 

Without free will, without being allowed to contribute personal offerings and having independent choices, even though fully dependent on Kṛṣṇa, the jīva-soul can never experience wonderful loving exchanges of reciprocation, by offering personal unique individual contributions to Kṛṣṇa. 

Free will or the ability to choose is eternally part and parcel of the jīva-soul’s (marginal living entities) natural constitution and always exists without beginning or end. 

As said above, this means the jīva-souls can choose to serve Kṛṣṇa, or even reject Him if they want, it is their choice and always has been. 

This is why part of the Spiritual Sky (25%) is the material creation, the jiva-souls can choose to go there if they want.

However, their real home is always Vaikuntha or Goloka Vrindavana that makes up 75% of the Spiritual Sky.

Kṛṣṇa does not force the jīva-soul to surrender to Him, if He did, then loving exchanges between Kṛṣṇa and the jīva-souls is not possible.

As Prabhupada says above, if you catch a girl or boy, then force them to love and serve you, is that love? "Love me otherwise I will kill you!" No, Kṛṣṇa does not want to be a cruel lover like that, forced to serve by the point of gun.  

The amazing thing is, Kṛṣṇa always serves (loves) His pure devotees far more than they can ever serve Him!!

The individual jiva-souls (marginal living entities) can never exist independently from Krsna, even though they can express their own independent free will that Krsna allows and provides separately for the purpose of allowing two-way voluntary exchange of loving expressions unique to each individual jiva-soul.**^